How to Choose a Surrogate Mother

Not every couple can carry a pregnancy to full-term. As such, many couples must be open to other options, such as adoption and surrogacy. Like adoptions, becoming a parent through surrogacy is a positive experience for would-be parents who do their due diligence to ensure that the surrogate mother they choose to help them bring their precious little one into the world is the best possible for them. Below, we take a closer look at how to choose a surrogate mother.

Characteristics to Look for in a Surrogate

For starters, the journey for choosing the right surrogate mother for you and your family is not necessarily one you must make on your own. Instead, one can opt to use an agency to find a surrogate that is best suited to your situation. Still, even with the assistance of an agency, there are still some characteristics you must consider:

Medical History

It stands to reason that the surrogate you choose, whether selected through an agency or individually, is in good health. This will help ensure that your little one is brought into this world healthily and safely.

Lifestyle Choices

The life that a woman lives while pregnant – physically and mentally – will have a profound impact on the new baby. As such, the healthier and cleaner the lifestyle of the surrogate, the better. Substance and drug abuse are definite no-nos. Consuming healthy, nutrient-dense, and natural foods are a plus, and so too, is a relatively active lifestyle.

Surrogacy Process

There are a lot of fees associated with the surrogacy progress and lots of papers that must be filed to deal with the same. Costs associated with the process can include the following:

  • General health care and medical expenses (including hospital visits and checkups relating to the surrogacy)
  • Health insurance
  • Life insurance
  • Cost of psychological tests and screens
  • legal fees
  • travel costs
  • surrogacy compensation
  • egg donation costs

It is critical that those opting for surrogacy consider all these and other possible costs associated with the process, as it all adds up quickly.

Legal Matters

Unsurprisingly, there are also legal matters that are associated with the surrogacy process. It is important that any person or couple opting to become a parent through surrogacy know that the process of surrogacy is treated differently from one state to the next. As such, it is important that prospective parents hoping to use a surrogate familiarize themselves with the local laws surrounding surrogacy, so that their process is guided accordingly.

Parent-Surrogate Relationship

Finally, it is important for the parents to decide on the kind of relationship they will have with the surrogate after the delivery of the baby. Some people opt to terminate the relationship after delivery while some people opt for the surrogate to remain integral in the child’s life. The choice is yours.